I did not know…at least until a few months ago. I became aware of the story I was telling myself. Every day I woke up, the old negatively-impacting story kicked in. It was full of limiting beliefs such as, "you are not worthy enough," "what will others say about me or what I do,” "I am not capable enough." It’s like anything else… the more you repeat these destructive thoughts, the more will the settle into your subconscious mind and the more normal they become engrained in your daily habits.
Starting my days like this, overthinking and making up nonsense stories in my head, was incredibly unpleasant. As a result, all my energy was drained from my body. During the day, I felt like I wasn’t breaking through this vicious cycle of self-sabotage, until one morning I became conscious of how much I was hurting myself. I concluded I was choosing to be the victim, and I immediately assumed full control of myself
On this post, I am going to give you simple steps you can take to assume full control of your thoughts and begin to create in yourself the thoughts you want and deserve to have!
First things first. I began to ask myself: What am I saying and imagining that’s real? I started looking for concrete evidence to support my “I am not capable enough", I am not worthy" negative belief, which needless to say, there was not any, they were assumptions
Let's look closely at what happens in our bodies and minds when we assume things that are not real or substantiated by our facts:
Just like a gazelle runs away from the dangerous threat of a predator, when I felt “threatened” by those self-sabotaging thoughts, I had three options:
1) to escape like the gazelle
2) attack the threat
3) remain immobile.
The fight or flight response of the human brain activates in situations where we feel threatened by external or internal forces, such as those of our negative thoughts and beliefs. It’s our primitive brain attempting to protect us from getting hurt.
Threats could range from testing, arguments, social exposure, networking, and even foods that can easily increase the likelihood of triggering the fight or flight response (coffee, tea, sugar etc.)
WE ASSUME SITUATIONS, PEOPLE, AND EVENTS WITHOUT STOP TO THINK HOW REAL THOSE ASSUMPTIONS ARE.
Furthermore, the “fight or flight reaction” process is divided into 2 parts:
The first part begins when either or a combination of our basic senses of sight, hearing, smell, taste and touch capture the threat. This information is then sent to the amygdala, an area of the brain where the most primitive emotions and memories are processed. Then, the amygdala sends an alert signal to the hypothalamus, consequently activating the sympathetic nervous system, which, through the autonomic nerves, fire the adrenal glands. The product of this sequence of events is epinephrine (adrenaline), which opens the door to a serious of body reactions.
Secondly, the heart begins to accelerate in order to send blood to the muscles, the airways expand so more oxygen gets sent to the brain, and the senses are heightened while blood glucose increases. As adrenaline decreases the hypothalamus activates the HPA axis (hypothalamus, pituitary gland, and adrenal glands). The purpose is to keep the first part of constant operation. If the brain continues to register danger, the release of the hormone cortisol (stress hormone) is triggered.
When the body experiences moments of constant stress, the consequences can be very serious. A malfunction of the adrenal glands leads to problems such as: lack of energy, concentration problems, insomnia, feeling confused, digestive problems, constipation, depression, weakness, and problems doing tasks that were previously easy.
All this occurs without even realizing it, and this is where the 2 essential components take precedence, consciousness and the power of the will.
Yes, we can choose what to think!
Here are the steps to take control:
1-The night before, demand your mind to create awareness of your thoughts, especially the first few thoughts of the day. Talk to it, and emotionalize your conversation. Be patient. that when you wake up you will be aware of your first thoughts.
2-When you are observing those thoughts ask yourself:
- What I think is real? Do I have concrete evidence to support it?
- What is my subconscious trying to tell me?
- What am I being afraid of?
- What is the result of having this type of thinking? Does it empower me? Do you empower me? Does it give me energy, does it take away my energy?
Repeat the above exercise every day. If it gets tedious, do at least step 1, and then the next morning when you are observing what you think, ask yourself if it is real. Day by day you will notice the changes on a mental and physical level.
This exercise will awaken a deeper level of consciousness, and allow you to see life from a more objective point of view. Positioning yourself in the place of an observer empowers you. It is right there where we can choose what to feel… physically, mentally and spiritually. Being present and fully conscious fills us with energy, vitality, and inspires us. When we are victims, On the other hand, we are subjective and prisoners of our own illusions. We feel sorry for ourselves and we are also at the mercy of what happens in our outside world.
Finally, remember that knowledge is power, only when we apply it.